Why companionship matters

Wellness

16 February 2023

At any stage of our lives, the people we surround ourselves with undoubtedly influences our mood. Loneliness and boredom can be by products of ageing, particularly beyond retirement, but that needn't be the case. Companionship can make a world of difference to our lives.

Places, events and food can all evoke feelings of happiness, but nothing lifts a mood quite like the company of another person. Companionship looks different to everyone. It can be a visit from the grandchildren, a telephone conversation with friends or a cup of tea with a neighbour. Any interaction big or small can have a positive effect on your mental health and wellbeing.

Preventing isolation and loneliness

Many people need to adjust to change at some point. That could be losing a partner or living alone for the first time. In those situations it's common to feel lonely or isolated. This can affect your self-esteem and stress levels and even causing problems with your sleep.

Having a companion can provide you with a sense of belonging and happiness. You might choose to meet a companion at the same time each week and venture outside of the house. A relationship with a neighbour, friend or family, will also help you to maintain social skills and your independence, whilst building confidence to socialise. Four ways to reduce the feeling of loneliness are:

Try establishing a routine, and be sure to include recurring events with special people who make you smile
Learn how to feel safe at home
Learn how to use the internet
Make conversation

The power of conversation

The power of conversation cannot be underestimated, especially when it comes to anxiety. As we grow older and things change in life, it can help to talk this through with another person. Talking about our feelings can make a great difference. Remember, "A problem shared is a problem halved."

The benefit of a smile

It's good to smile and fantastic to laugh. Having someone you can talk to about the little things in life such as television or your favourite food can really benefit your wellbeing. The act of smiling or laughing releases endorphins from your body which can relieve feelings of stress, and provide brain stimulation.

Try new things and meet new people

Growing older often goes hand in hand with less energy and an increasing number of well-established habits or patterns. Not always of course, but one common trend in later life can be to remain in the comfort of your home and, whilst there is nothing wrong with this, a change of scenery can do wonders for the mind. Having a companion accompany you can be a great motivator to leave the house. This might be to run weekly errands or more leisurely activities like having a coffee.

Getting outside for some fresh air and exercise is a terrific way to boost those feel-good endorphins.

The idea of meeting new people can be daunting at any point in our lives, especially if you lack confidence. To find a new companion try taking up a hobby or activity, seeking out senior citizen groups in the local area (as off-putting as that may sound). Why not consider volunteering for your community or a local charity. You might also consider joining your local Mayfield Club, where you have the opportunity to mix with other ladies and gentlemen your age in a calm and relaxing environment. If you find companionship in someone of a similar age, you are most likely supporting them in the same way that they are to you. You might even find yourself being introduced to new things through your social interactions.

Gardening your way to mental wellbeing

Have you considered the health benefits of house plants and also the impact gardening can have on your mental wellbeing? At Mayfield Watford we have two rooftop gardens where homeowners can get stuck into gardening.